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Blah-Blah Bar / Re: Domestic violence and why the government will struggle to attention the problem.
Last post by Lods -If you wouldn't mind a... couple of very senitive questions and don't feel any obligation that you need to answer them.
1) How did things eventually end up for yourself, your poor mother, and your stepfather?
2) A couple of times you shifted the narrative from the past to the present (as if it was actually happening now) when describing the events. It is obviously still very raw. Have you ever spoken to a professional person about these events.
Domestic violence has been around since folks lived in caves.
It exists in all cultures.
It stems from factors such as passion, possession, control, power...and mental health.
It can be verbal as well as physical
It is often passed down through generations...'the abused becomes the abuser'.
It is not something that is transparent and more often occurs behind closed doors.
We're seeing a lot of demonstrations and a lot of talk
It might make folk feel good, but the solutions are still far away.
I'm not sure anyone has the answers.
Lock the abuser up?
Lock the abuser up for longer periods?
They'll just stew and work themselves up for revenge, because they'll regard themselves as the victims.
Once the abuser is released the woman and family will forever be looking over their shoulders.
It's very difficult to relocate a person(s) to the extent that they are untraceable and anyway it would mean a disconnect from family and friends.
Providing some financial support that allows the abused to leave the situation only works to the point where the abuser is kept at bay...and in the extreme deadly circumstances that are the focus of most of the protests the abuser usually finds a way.
Again, credit and great respect to Mantis for sharing his story.
If we look back, society has probably come a long way from the times where these things were not talked about.
Examples such as this, used in terms of education of the next generations is probably the only way forward.
But that will take many years to have a significant effect.